healing journey

A lot of us have suffered and survived for so long that even though we know deep down this is not exactly how life should be experienced, it has become our ‘norm’.  We’re overwhelmed and not sure where to start.  I’ve been there myself!  My role as a trauma informed coach, guide and facilitator will be to help you see that no matter what you’ve struggled with to make it to where you are now, you are not broken or defective, your pain and frustrations are completely valid and that there are perfectly reasonable explanations for how you ended up where you are.
A healing journey isn’t linear and takes a lot of courage, vulnerability and resilience.  To take the plunge into a healing journey is the bravest act of self-love and faith.  Healing is not something I can do to or for you. I can not magically ‘fix’ you because there’s actually nothing wrong with you! It is a process we both must be engaged in and though you are not responsible for a lot of what has happened to you, in order to heal, you must be an active participant in your own healing journey.

While I am committed to guiding and supporting you all the way, ultimately you must take the steps forward. It allows you to develop a deep understanding of how your internal system functions, what shaped those patterns and how to have compassion for yourself.  I want you to know that you are an adaptive, intelligent, creative and whole person.  My role will be to support you with compassion in order to find belief in your own power and to equip you with the right tools to care for yourself and honor your needs.  Together we will set healthy attainable goals and in time, you will find that you are not only worthy but capable of living a beautiful life. With that said, In my experience, being curious about what’s going on in your inner world (rather than judging yourself or assuming) is the key ingredient in healing.

Beneath the surface of the protective parts of trauma survivors there exists an undamaged essence, a Self that is confident, curious, and calm, a Self that has been sheltered from destruction by the various protectors that have emerged in their efforts to ensure survival. Once those protectors trust that it is safe to separate, the Self will spontaneously emerge, and the parts can be enlisted in the healing process.

- Bessel A. van der Kolk